New to goal-setting? Or perhaps you've been writing goals down for years. Either way, here are some tips and answers to frequently asked questions related to getting the best results possible from your goal-setting.
Setting Good Goals:
Staying on Track:
Getting the Most from myGoals.com Features: (See also instructions on using specific features.)
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Setting Good Goals
Whether this is your first experience with setting goals or you've been setting them all of your life, here are some helpful suggestions and ideas. Experienced goal-setters will notice that myGoals.com does a few things differently from traditional paper-based systems, owing to the power and flexibility of the Internet.
What makes a good goal?
Traditional goal-setting wisdom has taught us that a good goal must be a) written, b) challenging, c) believable, d) specific, e) measureable, and f) have a specific deadline. Unfortunately, it's not too difficult to think of an example that directly challenges any of the above goal-setting criteria. For instance, the goal "to live a more spiritual life" may be a valuable, meaningful goal for many, but it's hardly measurable and assigning a deadline makes little sense for a permanent alteration of lifestyle.
This traditional checklist of things that "make a good goal" is largely a product of old technology: pen and paper. The old-school of goal-setting suggested that people write down goals on a small slip of paper and keep it in their wallet or purse. Suffice to say that slips of paper rapidly dissolve into lint. Today we have email.
So what makes a good goal? All of the above criteria are still good components of most goals. However, they are not necessarily all required when using myGoals.com. For our purposes, a good goal is one that is worthy of individual pursuit. And that is so highly subjective, far be it from us to define what is your worthy pursuit.
A different question is, "What makes a good Goalplan?" On this, our position is precise: A good Goalplan is one that when followed, offers a reasonably high probability of success, given sufficient time.
Let's take each of the traditional points one-at-a-time:
- Must all goals be written?
It's important to record your goals, whether you enter them into myGoals.com or physically write them down on paper. The problem with the paper method is that hand-written goals are difficult to update and manage, and of course, hand-written goals provide none of the additional features that are made possible by the Web.
- Must all goals be believable?
You must believe that it is at least possible for you to achieve the goal or you will not be motivated to try. More importantly, it is you who must believe, not others (see what to do about naysayers). Also, just because you should believe that the goal is possible does not mean that you must expect it to be easy or even probable. Indeed, some argue that completion of only the most difficult goals will have enduring value to you. Similarly, some of history's greatest moments were the result of people attempting the "impossible," such as flying or putting a man on the moon. See more about setting "realistic" goals.
- Must all goals be challenging?
No. We recommend setting at least one easy goal and at least one challenging goal. You could have several of each but you should limit the number of challenging goals or tasks coming due at any one time to avoid becoming overwhelmed or frustrated. The easy goals build good habits of follow-through and reward you with quick gratification. The challenging goals force you to grow. A mix of the two is ideal.
- Must all goals be measurable and specific?
Your goals should be measurable and specific enough for you to know unambiguously whether they have been completed yet or not. However, to save space on the computer screen, abbreviated goal titles such as "to reduce my stress" might be more convenient than titles such as "to reduce my stress by practicing yoga three nights a week and lowering my blood pressure by 10 points." Instead, make individual tasks in myGoals.com measurable and specific as much as possible, even if the details must be written in the task's "notes" area.
- Must all goals have deadlines?
Here's the big shocker: Goals no longer have to have a deadline! Technology has allowed us to expand the definition of what a goal can be to include a direction, commitment, or lifestyle enhancement as opposed to a mere end-point. The technology utilized in myGoals.com allows a new and completely revolutionary look at the need for a goal to have a deadline. We offer a new type of goal called an "on-going" goal, that is sustained over time, managed, and tracked, but by design, never-ending. Why, for instance, would you want to end a goal, "to keep myself in excellent physical condition" or "to be an honest and trustworthy person"? Such goals should have no end-date, and now they don't have to. This concept may sound revolutionary to long-time power goal-setters. It is revolutionary. We invite you to try it.
Should my goals be short-term or long-term?
We recommend that you always have at least one short-term and one long-term goal at any given time. Short-term goals are usually simpler and easier than long-term. Setting them helps assure that you'll have frequent victories, building a strong track record and momentum with each one you complete.
Long-term goals (two years or longer) keep you headed in the right direction and can provide a sense of greater purpose, not to mention something exciting to work toward.
It's okay to change goals as you go.
With long-term goals, it's important not to focus on the goal so much that you lose sight of the underlying reason you set the goal in the first place. The world changes and so can you. While follow-through and persistance are among the most important traits related to long-term accomplishment, so is the ability to re-assess along the way. So long as you are honest with yourself, it's okay to change your mind, change goals mid-stream, shelve one for a later day, or cancel one altogether. Again, the trick is to be honest with yourself, and not change your mind so frequently that you never accomplish anything. (See also "What if my goals change?")
Should my goals be lofty or practical?
Only you can decide what is "lofty" or "practical" and how many goals of either flavor you'd like to set. Indeed, one person's lofty might be another's practical, and vice-versa. This service is here to help you accomplish anything you set out to do, from painting the house to reforming public education. And while we're always thrilled to hear success stories from our users who've done newsworthy and inspiring things, we also know that these can't be done without also taking care of the simpler items on life's to-do list.
But assuming you've covered your bases and been mindful of the balanced whole, and if you've got the energy and passion to apply to something beyond the ordinary, then—by all means—reach for the stars!
Along these same lines, be sure to also see:
With lofty goals, pay extra attention to whom you're willing to discuss your goals with, particularly when you first begin and have no demonstrable milestones achieved. The old adage, "show, don't tell," exists because naysayers are quick to label lofty goal-setters as fools or dreamers, and deeds shut them up faster than promises. Your personal support group of family and friends (at least, those whom you trust to be supportive) is an exception. Use them as a resource whenever appropriate.
For more on dealing with naysayers, "Should I keep my goals private?"
How do I know if a goal is realistic?
A goal is realistic if you stand reasonably good odds of accomplishing it, given enough time and effort—and indeed, mountains can be moved if given enough time and effort. "Good odds" is a subjective measure, but one that you have most control over when success or failure depends on what you do, as opposed to what other people do or random events (such as goals "to become an astronaut" or "to win the lottery").
The majority of the goals you set should be very realistic or you risk becoming frustrated if you do not accomplish any of them. However, there is nothing wrong with attempting things that defy the odds or that you expect to be extremely difficult. Such goals require courage, defined here as "attempting something even though you might not succeed."
Almost any goal, no matter how difficult, can be made easier by breaking it down into several smaller goals, to be tackled one at a time. The completion of so-called "baby steps" is one of the best ways to build confidence, momentum, and a track record of performance.
And finally, when you create or update a Goalplan, ask yourself, "Will completing these steps lead to completion of the goal?" If not, then modify the obstacles, tasks, or due dates until a viable plan exists.
How many goals should I have at the same time?
You can set many goals without worrying about spreading yourself too thin because we make a distinction between "setting" a goal and "working on" a goal. These are not necessarily the same thing because, with myGoals.com, you can set goals that do not begin until some future date, even years from now. The idea is that you should be thinking of goals you'd like to shoot for in the future even if you are focused on other things going on in your life right now.
- How many goals can I set?
A goal is "set" when you create a Goalplan, even if you only create a partial plan with the intention of filling in the details later. In fact, you might just write down the name of the goal, for no other reason than to remind you that's it's something you'd like to do later. (You can always edit any of your Goalplans at any later date.)
myGoals.com imposes no limit on the number of goals you can set, regardless of when they start and end.
- How many goals can I "work on" at the same time?
Here, "working on" refers to goals that have begun—meaning the start date you entered has passed. For instance, you might have a goal to run a marathon next year but you might not intend to begin working on this goal (training, etc.) until six months from now. So you would set the start date to occur in six months. So for six months, nothing happens, but you'll see the goal every time you visit, thereby being reminded that this goal exists on the horizon. Only after the start date elapses would the Goalplan become active, sending you task reminders related to that goal.
While there is no technical limit to how many goals you can be working on simultaneously at myGoals.com, it would be easy to overload yourself with too many goals-in-progress. You only have so many hours in a day and so many things you can adequately address at a given time.
We therefore suggest you limit the number of goals you're working on to some manageable number, which for most people will be somewhere between 5 and 10 goals, depending on a few common-sense factors:
- How focused can you be?
If you've got a lot going on in your life right now, little spare time, or if you really need to focus intently on a small number of important things, then don't attempt to take on too many goals at once. It's better to keep your number of goals down to a manageable amount so that you can actually accomplish a few of them now and then (which is much more fun than having many goals that rarely ever get accomplished).
With that said, also be mindful of the importance of balance. Even if you are very focused on one important goal, don't forget the other important things such as your health or personal relationships.
See also:
- How difficult are your goals?
Some people use myGoals.com for goals as simple as "To clean my desk." Others use it for goals like "To sell my company." (We suggest you use it for both challenging and easy goals, at least one of each.) The simpler your goals are, the more goals you can be working on simultaneously without causing problems. You might be able to handle twenty "clean my desk"-type goals simultaneously but only one or two "sell my company"-type goals.
- Are your goals short-term or long-term?
We also recommend using myGoals.com for both short-term and long-term goals (at least one of each). Keep in mind however, that the more short-term goals you have, the more tasks you're likely to have coming due soon. To avoid having too many tasks come due at the same time, you might want to have fewer goals if they are mostly short-term goals.
What if my goals conflict with each other?
Almost all goals require some of your resources: time, money, effort, attention, and so on. Because these resources are limited, goals can often appear to be at odds with one another—working on one can mean slipping on the other.
Good management of your goals as a group is important for avoiding frustration:
- Stay focused. Don't set too many goals to come due at the same time. A large number of goals (7+) is okay if the goals are small or simple (such as a goal to shampoo the carpet) but be realistic and don't expect to build a business while getting a law degree while training for a triathlon while raising a family.
- Always have at least one simple goal and one difficult goal at any given time. The simple goals motivate you as you accomplish them rapidly. The difficult goals keep you challenged and growing.
- Always have at least one short-term and one long-term goal at any given time. As with simple goals, short-term goals help assure that you'll have frequent victories. Long-term goals (two years or longer) keep you headed in the right direction.
- Prioritize but be flexible. Decide which of your goals (and tasks) are most important and assign your due dates accordingly. Be willing to change due dates or even put a goal on hold for a while if necessary.
- Spread out your due dates. Avoid setting a large number of difficult goals with tasks due at the same time.
- Look for ways to combine goals and tasks. For instance, if you have a goal to take a vacation and a goal to get better at photography, consider taking a travel photography class that spends a week in the wilderness snapping pics.
- Most of all, strive for balance. Make sure to set goals (whether easy or hard) across different areas of your life: health, finance, family, relations, learning, experiencing, career, etc. For instance, don't set ten career goals but then neglect your health, friends, and family.
How should I prioritize my goals?
Don't ask "What's more important?"
Instead, ask "What am I going to focus on right now?"
Prioritizing goals can be confusing if you think in terms of "which is more important?" The reason is that, over the long term, all of your goals are probably important, or they wouldn't be goals. So asking which is more important is like asking whether it's more important to breathe or eat—at this moment, breathing is more important. But eventually, all the air in the world won't matter if you don't get some food.
We therefore suggest you abandon the notion of prioritizing by "importance." Instead, we think in terms of timing: "which will I focus on more right now?"
Even when one goal is clearly more important than another, timing will sometimes dictate that the less important goal take precedence at this time. For example, just because health and family might be one person's most important priorities in life, that doesn't mean that working late might not occasionally be the most intelligent use of an evening, even if it precludes being home for dinner or going to the gym.
So assume that all the Goalplans you've created or adopted are essentially of equal importance, over the long run at least. Don't worry if, in fact, one goal is truly more important. The point is not to prioritize the goal, but to prioritize what you're going to do right now.
On any given day, or week, you can choose to focus on some goals more than others. The goal that receives the most attention can and probably will change frequently. This flexible approach is very workable if you don't set too many goals or tasks to come due at the same time.
Someone might ask which goal is more important:
"To strengthen my relationship with my spouse"
or
"To earn a promotion at work"
Both of these may be very important, but clearly, one may need more attention at any given time. This flexibility allows you to have fun and set many diverse goals (travel, savings, relationships, and health, for instance), keep track of them, focusing on certain ones now, and shifting focus to others as needed—without having to make an artificial decision about their order of importance. You can even set a very long range goal with a start date that doesn't even begin for several years, but at least it will be there to look at whenever you are reviewing your goals and thinking about the future.
Some people definitely prefer to work on their goals one-at-a-time, which is completely fine. Most, however, opt to adjust the date settings of each goal (and its associated tasks) to manage multiple goals simultaneously, directing attention and efforts as changing circumstances dictate.
In how many categories should I set goals?
The number of categories in which you should set goals depends on your particular situation. How well-balanced is your life right now? What are your priorities? How busy are you? Are you already strong in some areas, but weak in others? Answers to questions like these will give you a sense of where to focus your efforts.
In general, expect to focus on a few goals in more than one category at a time, as opposed to 10 goals in one category or 1 goal in each of 10 categories. It's okay to set lots of goals in multiple categories—especially long-term goals that you may not begin working on right now. Be realistic about how many you can effectively pursue in a given time frame. (See also "How should I prioritize my goals?".)
I have an idea for a goal, but I'm not sure where to begin.
First, be sure to read "What makes a good goal." The next step is to create your own Goalplan from scratch or adopt a pre-made Goalplan that is similar to the goal you have in mind.
You'll find that creating a Goalplan from scratch is very easy. Consider reading one of the pre-made Goalplans to get an idea of how they are structured, then begin building your own. You'll be walked through the process step-by-step. Don't worry about making it perfect—your Goalplans are completely editable at any time, even when you come back to myGoals.com at a later date.
If you choose to adopt a pre-made Goalplan, all you have to do is modify it to suit your circumstances by adding, deleting, and changing obstacles and tasks, and by setting dates. Our pre-made Goalplans also provide helpful details and recommended resources to assist you.
When should I adopt a pre-made Goalplan versus create my own?
The pre-made Goalplans in myGoals.com are designed to give you a template from which to start. Look at some of them to see examples of typical obstacles and tasks. If you adopt a pre-made plan, expect to edit it to suit your situation by adding, deleting, and changing obstacles, tasks and due dates. A pre-made Goalplan also provides helpful details and recommended resources to assist you in your goal pursuit.
Pre-made Goalplans do not exist for every category, nor can they be written for many uniquely personal goals. You'll create more personalized Goalplans yourself by significantly modifying a related pre-made Goalplan or creating your own Goalplan from scratch using our simple step-by-step process.
Whether you modify a pre-made Goalplan or create one from scratch, the more you tailor it to your situation, the more effective it will be for you. Spend time thinking through the obstacles and tasks that apply to you. You will learn about yourself in the process and dramatically increase your ability to accomplish the goal.
What if I can't find a pre-made Goalplan that suits me?
You have two options if you can't find the pre-made Goalplan you're looking for.
- First, if you find a pre-made Goalplan that is similar, then you can use that as a starting point. Once you've adopted a pre-made Goalplan, you can edit every piece of it, including re-naming, adding, and removing any element. So, for instance, if you have a goal to pay off your student loans, you might begin with our pre-made Goalplan titled "To Pay Off My Debt" and then modify it to apply only to your student loans.
- If you can't find a similar pre-made Goalplan, then you should create your own Goalplan from scratch using our step-by-step process. It's a very simple and fun process for creating a comprehensive plan for accomplishing your goal.
If you set a lot of goals, most of them will be made from scratch.
Do I need a reason for having a goal?
You likely have a reason (or multiple reasons) for every goal you set, whether you realize it or not. It's worth knowing for certain what the reasons are, in order to clarify that you're pursuing the right goal, for the right reason.
For example, suppose somebody has the goal, "to buy a bigger boat than my brother's."
Asking the question "why a bigger boat?" could shed light on the fact that this person is compelled to compete with and out-do his brother. If so, perhaps there are other issues to be addressed such as self-esteem and respect, that owning a larger boat will not solve. Perhaps a more appropriate goal would be "to earn my brother's respect." Clearly, identifying the root obstacles and tasks required to accomplish such a goal could have a profound impact on this person's life that could not be achieved with a boat of any size.
On the other hand, perhaps the reason for a bigger boat is that our goal-setter always felt cramped on his brother's boat, and that it would be too small to live aboard for a week. If the goal is really to be able to take extended trips in a boat, then that might suggest yet a different type of goal.
In each case, honest evaluation of why you want to achieve the goal can lead to insights and personal discovery. Know what you are doing, and know why you are doing it.
The more fully you understand why you want something, the more motivated you will be to keep working at it until you have accomplished it.
Staying on Track
What else can I do to accomplish my goal?
The most important step is to create a Goalplan that can work:
- Break big pieces of the goal down into small steps.
- Be sure you've listed all the relevant obstacles and the tasks needed to overcome them.
- Assign dates realistically. Adjust them as necessary.
- Set your reminders to keep you on track. Reminders are defaulted to weekly emails but you can make them more or less frequent, or program them to notify you at specific times.
- Think of the Goalplan as dynamic, intended to be changed as necessary. Add, rename, or delete obstacles and tasks as the situation warrants.
- Read the "notes" included in pre-made Goalplans, as they include many useful tips. Add your own notes as work on any goal.
Some other tips:
- Solicit the encouragement of supportive family members and friends.
- Avoid the discussion of your goals with naysayers.
- myGoals.com pre-made Goalplans include expert content and recommended solutions for completing your tasks. Links to other resources are also provided to help you get there.
- Don't stop, even if you get side-tracked or discouraged. Just get back on track and keep plodding forward. The best way to ensure your success is simply to keep on going. The accumulation of many small steps equals significant progress and the further you go, the easier it gets.
What if I get discouraged?
If you feel discouraged, it's probably the result of not meeting one of your own expectations. Ask yourself, "Was the expectation realistic in the first place?" If not, you have no reason to feel discouraged. Simply create a new goal (or tasks) that you feel are realistic and keep on going.
But if you believe your expectations are realistic and you're just not making progress, you need to figure out why. Review your Goalplan and ask yourself, "What obstacles are hindering my progress?" Have you identified all the obstacles? Have you listed appropriate tasks to overcome those obstacles? Are the dates assigned to those tasks realistic? Are you utilizing the recommended resources and solutions? Are you just procrastinating? If so, why? Assess the circumstances and modify your Goalplan—and actions—as necessary.
For more, see "What if I can't complete a goal?"
What if I can't complete a goal?
There are a number of good approaches to take if you find that you are having difficulty in completing one of your goals, particularly if you begin to fundamentally doubt whether the goal is achieveable or worth the effort.
- First, don't get discouraged.
It's worth noting that many of life's most difficult accomplishments are also some of the most worthwhile. And the most noteworthy accomplishments are, by definition, not common. That's because, if something were easy, then everyone would be doing it and it would no longer be very noteworthy. Not only is there nothing wrong with taking on tough challenges, many believe there is something wrong with only taking on easy goals that require no real effort or growth.
- Recognize partial accomplishment.
Partial accomplishment is still accomplishment. Suppose you're living a sedentary lifestyle and you set a goal to start running 10 miles every week. If you only manage to run eight miles most weeks, then it's important to recognize that this is a huge improvement over running none at all and that you have been much more successful than if you had never set the goal in the first place. Acknowledging partial success is very important if you intend to set challenging or lofty goals.
- Break large, difficult goals into smaller, manageable goals.
Large, difficult, or complex goals can be both overwhelming and discouraging if progress does not come quickly. The solution to both of these is to break the big goal into smaller goals, actually creating a separate Goalplan for each part. By shelving some of the pieces until a later date, you can avoid feeling overwhelmed or discouraged.
- Use your personal support group.
When appropriate, call on trusted family and friends to help if they can, even if it just means lending encouragement (though be careful to avoid naysayers, who sometimes reside in the same house). Try to find people who've got first-hand experience doing what you're doing trying to do. Many people will give time and advice when they meet somebody else who's curious or passionate about whatever it is they're passionate about.
- Internalize the lesson of perseverence.
It is usually true that something, no matter how difficult, can be done if someone spends enough time trying to do it. If you think of any goal as requiring a finite number of steps (tasks), then each task completed is one step closer toward completion of the goal. Again, the key is often to break the steps down into what may seem to be absurdly simple tasks, but ones that you know you can complete, thereby making measurable progress and establishing forward momentum.
- Is it ever time to give up?
You are the only one who can decide when enough is enough and that it's time to move on to something different. Unfortunately, many people give up too soon, and some even establish a tradition of completing 50% of many things but 100% of nothing. Because our mission is to help you "get things done," and because we strongly believe in the power of perseverence, we naturally encourage you to keep on going.
However, we understand that goals change, as well as the underlying motivations for individual goals. And more importantly, we advocate and encourage balance (over the long-term, at least), meaning that an obsessive focus on one goal could eventually lead to unhealthy or destructive negligence of other aspects of one's life, such as the classic case in which career obsession leads to one's neglect of health or family obligations.
So in the interest of promoting healthy balance, we suggest that you frequently take stock of all of your goals, with an eye toward the balanced whole. If, at such a time, you decide that your emphasis needs to be shifted elsewhere for the time being, then consider rescheduling some of your goals (or tasks) for a later date. Not only is there nothing wrong with such rescheduling, myGoals.com is specifically designed to allow this flexibility.
What if my goals change?
The reality is, most people's goals do change over time. In fact, goals usually should change, at least slightly, in response to things that change around you or new life events. Think back to what was important to you five years ago, or even one year ago. Are the same goals still important to you today? Chances are, some of your short- and medium-term goals either have already been achieved, are no longer desirable, or need to be modified slightly. The Goalplans you manage in myGoals.com are a direct reflection of where you are and where you're going in life. Change is part of the process, so accept it, welcome it. (Just remember to update your Goalplans!)
But be honest with yourself. Don't pretend to no longer care about a thing if, in fact, you've just been procrastinating and you really still do care. Remember, it is okay to put off working on a goal if you make a willful, determined decision to do so for good reason, such as opting to focus on a different goal for the time-being. myGoals.com allows you to change start and end dates of any of your goals, at any time.
How do I deal with fear of failure?
Fear of failure is a genuinely scary thing for many people, and often the reason that individuals do not attempt the things they would like to accomplish. But the only true failure is failure to make the attempt. If you don't try, you gain nothing, and life is too short a thing to waste.
On the other hand, if you do try but don't succeed, then it's a learning experience for which you are probably a better person, with more knowledge and skill than before—all the better equipped for the next attempt.
If you try and only partially succeed, you still had more success than you had before. For example, a man once had a goal to save $1,000 by a certain date. On that date, he only had $850 saved. His friend told him he failed, but the friend was flat wrong because the man had $850 more than he would not have had if he hadn't set the goal in the first place. The world is not always black-and-white. Shades of gray often do exist and partial success is still success.
Think of myGoals.com as your own private, personal coach that is here for one reason only: to support you no matter what—no criticism, no judgment. In this environment, there is no basis for fear of failure.
How do I deal with actual failure?
This is important: "Failure" only occurs when you fail to try in the first place or when you give up on a goal you want to achieve without having first given it your all. Missed deadlines are not failures. Setbacks are not failures. Unexpected challenges or changing priorities are not failures (in fact, they're quite normal). Feeling discouraged doesn't mean you failed. You can only fail if you quit, and there's an easy solution to that:
Keep going or start again.
So long as you are working toward your goal and following a plan, you haven't failed. If you stop, just start back up again. And remember, every step forward, every single task you check off as completed is a small accomplishment unto itself. Focus on just taking that next baby step, then the next, then the next. If the tasks are too difficult, then break them down into absurdly simple tasks, ones that you're guaranteed to complete. It may seem ridiculous to break down something as simple as cleaning a garage into forty individual tasks, but in doing so, you can build momentum with each task checked off. It's a bit like playing a game with yourself, but it really works.
See also, "What if I can't complete a goal?"
What if a new obstacle comes up?
Expect unexpected obstacles to come up. When they do, add them to your Goalplan and create a list of tasks to overcome that obstacle. Part of the skill in achieving goals is learning to deal with adversity, setbacks, and surprises. Be flexible and take them in stride. Be willing to change your plan or change your timeline. Just don't abandon your goal if it's something you truly want.
What if my goals depend on other people or things out of my control?
If you choose to set a goal in which the outcome is dependent on the actions of somebody else, acknowledge now that, through no fault of your own, you may not reach that goal. For example, the goal "To toilet train my daughter by the end of the week" is largely dependent on your daughter's cooperation. That doesn't mean it's not a good or worthy goal, it simply requires a more flexible frame of mind—you can't force someone else to adhere to your plan.
Matters of chance or competition are similar. Winning a game, a pageant, or admission to a particularly selective school may be worthy of your efforts and a good goal. But again, accept that the outcome, though influenced by your actions, is not entirely in your control.
If you pursue one or more goals like this, be sure to set and pursue several other goals in which you are entirely in control of the outcome. Your life shouldn't be left too much to chance—take control of as much as you possibly can. Wherever possible, aim to accomplish tasks that tilt the odds in your favor.
How do I stay focused and on track?
First, accept personal responsibility for staying on track. It's not up to anyone else, just you. You alone decide what you want to accomplish, and when. Life has a way of distracting us from what we'd like to be doing much of the time, so use the reminders and resources of myGoals.com to help keep part of your attention on your short- and long-term goals.
Most importantly, don't ignore your Goalplan reminders. If you fall behind, refocus your efforts, update your Goalplan, change any deadlines that need to be changed, and keep at it. Take short and easy baby-steps if necessary, but keep on going. You'll keep getting closer and eventually you will get there.
How do I avoid procrastination?
As for procrastinating with respect to actually sitting down and setting your goals, the answer is simple—do it now. That's it; just do it now. Take some step, no matter small. Do something right this moment while you are sitting at the computer, such as setting a goal (or even just starting a Goalplan which you'll complete later) or setting a task. Simply stating your intentions in this way is a powerful first step.
If you don't know what your goals are,
then set the following goal right now:
"To identify my goals and enter them
into myGoals.com within one week."
Don't worry if the goals you set aren't perfect.
You can always change them later. The point is to
do something right now.
To avoid procrastination when working on tasks for a goal, make sure to schedule the time and place to get the tasks done. Then protect that appointment so nothing else interferes. Most people procrastinate as a result of not planning when to do the task. Use myGoals.com's task reminders to keep you on track. Always read the reminders you receive and either complete the task at that time or reschedule for some time that makes more sense.
What if I miss a deadline?
First of all, don't worry. Life is complex and things beyond your control will come up. This includes not only unexpected problems, but unexpected opportunities as well. No matter how well you plan, you must remain flexible and able to adapt to your environment.
It's okay to change dates as you go.
Recognize that most deadlines are self-imposed and act as a tool to empower and motivate yourself. They exist to help you complete a task, not to cause you stress or feelings of failure if you miss them. As you pursue a goal, task deadlines can be re-set as circumstances warrant. When a task is past-due, either:
a) complete the task and check it off, or
b) immediately reset the deadline to a new, realistic date and keep working on the task.
Don't let date slippage discourage your goal-setting outlook. If you miss a date for a task or a goal, simply re-assign it with a new realistic date. Don't sweat it, just keep moving forward.
What if I get stuck on a task?
First ask yourself whether the task is necessary. It is okay to delete a task if you do not feel it propels you forward to the completion of your goal.
Then ask "Is it realistic?" Can you do it? If not, consider modifying the task or seeking assistance. Don't assume you have to do it alone. Help exists in many forms. Consider speaking to subject matter experts such as instructors, advisors, coaches, tutors, supervisors, or anyone who has successfully dealt with a similar task before. Knowledge can be found in online resources, books, audiocassette programs, publications, CD-ROM software and distance learning programs. Encouragement can be found in your friends and family, co-workers, and other people who share the same goal.
If a task seems too big to handle, ask yourself what obstacles are preventing you from completing the task. Consider breaking the task into smaller, more manageable pieces—even to the point where they seem absurdly simple. You might even consider converting the task into an entire Goalplan of its own. For instance, if your goal is to sell your home and if doing so requires landscaping the yard first, then create a new Goalplan, "to landscape the yard," rather than merely trying to complete it as a task in your Goalplan titled "to sell my house."
Next, consider whether the obstacle can ultimately be overcome some other way, using an entirely different strategy that would require completely different tasks.
Finally, be persistent. There is little that can't be done when a person continues trying.
Getting the Most from myGoals.com Features
Here are some tips and comments related to specific features of myGoals.com. For actual step-by-step instructions on how to use a particular feature, see the next section of this Help Center, "Using myGoals.com."
I was taught that goals must always have a due date; what is an "on-going" goal?
See above: "Must All Goals Have Deadlines?"
What do I do when I accomplish a goal?
First, congratulate yourself! The achievement of any goal, large or small, is a noteworthy accomplishment. Share the news with your family and friends, especially those who have been supporting your efforts. Include them in your success, and be sure to acknowledge their contributions, no matter how small. If you've attached a reward (such as buying something for yourself if you reach the goal on time), this is the time to enjoy it.
To mark the goal as done, click on the red "Goal Accomplished" button at the top right corner of that goal's page:
 
Some people use the excitement and momentum of the moment to immediately set a new goal.
Once you've marked your Goalplan as completed, it will be moved from your list of current Goalplans to your "Completed Goals" page.
Why do I have to list a goal's obstacles?
Part of the effectiveness of the patent-pending myGoals.com methodology comes from recognizing what problems, challenges, and obstacles are standing between you and achieving your goals. Most goal-setting techniques overlook this step, instead jumping to a list of "action steps" that may or may not effectively achieve the goal. By identifying exactly what the obstacles are and creating a specific plan to overcome them, myGoals.com helps ensure you are pursuing a plan that can lead to goal achievement.
We intentionally do not refer to obstacles as "challenges," "opportunities," or other feel-good euphemisms. The word "obstacle" is not negative, it's neutral. It is simply something that stands between where you are and where you want to be. Once you remove the obstacles, there's nothing left to do but cross the finish line.
While the myGoals.com process does not dwell on the obstacles once your Goalplan is created, it is an important step for creating a much more effective plan.
Any obstacle can be removed, added, or edited at any time.
How frequently should I opt to receive reminders?
For any given task, you can elect to receive one or more reminders for that task, at any interval you like. You can have reminders sent to you:
- One time only (on a specific date)
- Any selection of days each week (such as Tuesdays and Thursdays of every week)
- Any selection of dates each month (such as the 1st and 15th of each month)
- Some number of days prior to the task's due date
- Randomly (see details below)
- No reminder
(We combine all reminders related to the same goal into one email per day in order to keep you from receiving an unmanageable number of total emails.)
The interesting thing is that, other than the "prior to due date" option, these reminders need not necessarily coincide with when your tasks are due. That is, the settings are designed to allow you to be reminded at any time about a particular task, such as when you plan to be working on the task.
You might also use reminders just to keep the task or goal in mind even if you don't intend to focus on that task or goal until much later. So for instance, you may have a long-term goal to do something several years from now. And even though you may not be able to focus on that goal right now (perhaps you're still in school or busy raising a family), you can use the reminders to keep that goal ever-present in your thoughts and plans, such as by opting to receive a random reminder—say, several times per year—to read a related book or browse the Web for the latest trends or information related to that long-term goal.
You are the judge as to how best to put this tool to use. Many people use myGoals.com as a daily planner, with a large number of ordinary things coming due each week, such as business meetings, organizing a happy hour, paying the bills, or picking up the dry cleaning. But virtually all people use myGoals.com for long-range planning, looking ahead multiple months or years to tackle some of life's more challenging and fascinating goals.
What are "random" reminders used for?
As the old joke goes, "spontaneity has its time and place." It turns out that the joke is completely true. There are certain things—life's important moments akin to stopping to smell the roses—that can and should be done periodically, but not necessarily according to any specific calendar event.
You may set task reminders to intervals of:
- Randomly sent a few times per week
- Randomly sent a few times per month
- Randomly sent a few times per year
These are particularly helpful in reminding you to perform a recurring task "spontaneously," such as:
- Task: "Compliment my assistant on something done well"
- Task: "Call my parents"
- Task: "Take my kids out for ice cream"
- Task: "Take the afternoon off and play a round of golf"
When is a task a "milestone"?
Completion of certain tasks represents significant progress toward achieving a goal. These important tasks, called "milestones," are noteworthy or perhaps even newsworthy to your family and friends.
For example, in the Goalplan, "to get my private pilot's license" a milestone task might be:
 "To pass my FAA written exam"
or
"To fly solo"
Each milestone you reach is a major, tangible step closer to your goal. It has special meaning as a measure of success, even though the complete goal has not yet been fully realized.
How should I use the "notes" fields in a Goalplan?
The "notes" fields in a pre-made Goalplan are often filled with helpful explanations, recommended resources, tips, and suggestions regarding he task. In Goalplans you create yourself, use the notes field in a similar way, inserting links to other web pages, phone numbers, research notes, or anything you think of that is related to that particular task that you might want to recall later.
When should I use a "recurring" task?
Most tasks are completed once, checked-off, and done-forever. A recurring task, however, is a different kind of task that you intend to repeat over and over. For example:
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Reminder |
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| Go to the gym
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Mon, Wed, Fri |
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| Pay bills
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1st and 15th of each month |
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| Change oil in car
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Every 90 days |
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| Buy spouse flowers for no reason
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Randomly, a few times per year |
The use of recurring tasks and their associated reminder schedules is a very powerful tool for helping you keep on track with various goals. Keep in mind that some recurring tasks will have a start and end date, such as a task to run every day for two months leading up to a marathon.
But a perhaps even more powerful aspect of recurring tasks is that they can help you establish permanent lifestyle changes that might otherwise be difficult to adopt. As such, some recurring tasks may relate to things that you plan to do for the forseeable future and therefore require no end-date, such as a recurring task to read to your children every night before bed.
Other Tips
Should I keep my goals private?
Obviously, some goals are so personal that you would keep them private or only disclose to your closest confidants. That said, it is a well-known tenant of goal-setting that you are more likely to achieve your goals if you tell your family and friends about them. Not only will you want to avoid looking inconsistent for abandoning a goal, but their support and assistance can be invaluable. Remember to share your goals with those who are in a position to encourage you.
Avoid discussing your goals with naysayers. It's unfortunate, but many people who see others striving to improve themselves are reminded that they themselves could use some improvement. Rather than setting goals of their own, they find it easier to belittle or ridicule the goals of others. While some goal-setters derive motivation from naysayers ("I'll show them!"), most find it best to avoid such topics with negative people.
What if there is an unsupportive person in my life?
Either tune out the negativity or simply distance yourself. Don't let their negativity pull you down. If that person is your spouse or lives in the same household, then you may have a more complicated problem. Try to understand whether the other person is critical of a particular goal of yours or of goals in general. Also try to understand whether the person has his or her own goals and demonstrate your encouragement for the things he or she would like to accomplish. You might also look for ways to work together by coming up with goals you both agree on and can pursue together.
In many cases, it's simply easiest to keep your goals to yourself or share them only with supportive people. (See also "Should I keep my goals private?")
How do I get others (family and friends, etc.) to set goals?
Even if somebody you care for doesn't routinely set goals, everyone has something they want—someplace they want to visit or something they want to learn or do or buy. What they may not have is the knowledge, tools, discipline, or belief to accomplish or even begin pursuit of that goal.
While myGoals.com can help them with the knowledge, tools, and discipline parts...belief is internal. If fear of failure (or fear of success) is the problem keeping the person from pursuing their goal, then the solution is to start small. Accomplishing small, simple tasks, then small goals, followed by larger goals, builds the habit of progress that breeds confidence.
You can't make someone pursue a goal, but you can offer encouragement and support. You can help them and you can set an example. Be sure to tell them about myGoals.com!
"Obstacles" sounds negative. Can't I use a different term like "challenges" or "opportunities"?
No. Our patent-pending goal-setting process is designed specifically to target and eliminate your obstacles. But you can't eliminate something if you don't call attention to it. Obstacles are not inherently negative, they are simply things that stand between you and your objective. Consider this example: The freezer door stands between you and the ice cubes. Is a freezer door inherently negative? No, it's simply something that you have to deal with before you get your ice. Some doors are harder to open then others (and some are locked), just as obstacles may be simple or hard. But before you overcome them, you must identify them. Once you have, you can systematically work at overcoming or going around them. There's nothing negative about tackling something head on. Indeed, it would be detrimental to pretend it's not there or to ignore it.
Is myGoals.com a business expense or tax deductible?
If you use myGoals.com to help you at your job, then your employer may allow you to be reimbursed for using the service. If so, simply make a copy of your credit card statement with the myGoals.com charge highlighted and submit it to your employer.
If you are self-employed, then you can claim the amount as a business expense if you use myGoals.com to set goals related to your business.
For additional information, see the other sections of this Help Center:
Getting Started
Using myGoals.com
Your Account
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